"Little parting": the most unfortunate thing in life is "excellent but poor".

Just now, I used Alipay to pay the rent for the first time. I typed that simple five-digit number on my mobile phone intently and trembling. I stared at it again and again, confirmed it again and again, and pressed it trembling to send it. The screen immediately showed "the transaction was successful." the handheld bank and mobile phone text messages also pushed the bank card deduction message to me at the same time, and the money was transferred out quietly. Unlike the pain of cutting meat with a lot of cash, the pain of electronic payment is vaguely hidden under my dermis and becomes a chronic disease. I don't know which day it becomes cancer, and its name is "poor".

when I was a child, I did not suffer from "poverty", because food, clothing, housing, and transportation were arranged by my parents. I never had any money in my hand, and I had no habit of spending, so I had no desire to spend. Later, until I graduated from college, I looked for a job in Beijing, rented a house, got my first salary, added a desk lamp to my small rental house of more than ten square meters, turned on the lampshade late at night, and the lampshade was behind me. I was caught in the narrow, congested, messy, and unclean darkness, and suddenly found that I was financially independent, but I didn't feel excited at all. I just tasted "poverty" for the first time.

recently I saw a play called "Little parting," in which there was a "poor couple"-Wu Jiani and Jin Zhiming. They quarreled every day. Mother Wu Jiani insisted that her daughter Qinqin go abroad, while her father, Jin Zhiming, thought that he could do as much as he could. In the final analysis, he had no money. This story is a very new experience for me. My parents also quarrel, but most of them are trivial, and they never move rich and poor things to the table, unlike Wu Jiani and Jin Zhiming, who often say that each other is futile and how bad they are. Therefore, I have always been very vague about the class of my family, which is both good and bad for children. The good thing is that they can have a relatively heartless childhood, and the bad thing is that they lack the so-called self-motivation.

the piano is completely different. in this atmosphere of her family, the concept of poverty is engraved in her soul. Her two best friends, Xiao Yu and Duoduo come from a wealthy family, the other comes from the middle class, and her family is far better off than her. maybe that's why she studies hard and is one of the best in the exam. In this way, she has a little more courage to associate with her friends. You may even be a little proud. After all, children with good grades are the most popular, though only when they were students.

but the better the Qin is the more she is welcomed into the limelight of the stage, and the more she highlights the poverty of Wu Jiani's family. If Qinqin is an ignorant girl, with such a family, it would be better to be poor, and if there is no hope, there will be no disappointment. Wu Jiani always said that her life was over, she had no education, she had never been abroad, and when she arrived, she was just a doctor in a community center. But she gave birth to a daughter, a high achiever, who seems to have made a comeback in her dark life, and she can also raise her head among those rich and educated neighbors. Qin Qin is not only a daughter to Wu Jiani but also the last straw. Her desire was aroused, and she wanted to make an effort to get her daughter to go abroad to make up for her regretful life. However, my ability is not worthy of my daughter's excellence, so I can only expose my embarrassment more and more.

so poverty is not the most unfortunate. Poverty may also be like Jin Zhiming, who can be satisfied with driving a taxi and having plenty of water to drink. The most unfortunate thing is to be good and poor. Qin Qin is a high achiever, obviously talented, but she can only be a high achiever. And look at the blossoms and Xiao Yu around her. A young writer with tens of thousands of fans at a young age, and a rich second generation who dumped others at birth and played drums well. Qin Qin is always silent in front of them, following the blossoms, with two long ponytails, like a silent background. The misfortune of her family is not only because of poverty but also because of her excellence.

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I think of Fan Shengmei in Ode to Joy. She is beautiful, outstanding in work, intelligent and sharp, but she is always confined to the circle of blind dates and men. She is busy with all kinds of high-class parties and enjoys the illusory halo; she is also easily devoted to the rich second generation while ignoring his obvious routines. Can't she see clearly in her head? It was not until the plot unveiled her family that everything was explained. It turned out that it was still because of poverty. Poor and excellent, always thinking about what to earn for themselves by relying on this excellence, so the pattern becomes narrower and narrower and enters the bottomless pit of desire. The result is to use this excellence to highlight their poverty.

so if you also send your children abroad, families of three classes have three kinds of mood.

Wu Jiani's definition of Qin Qin going abroad is to study finance and go to Wall Street to make a lot of money, and her mouth is Harvard Yale Stanford. Utilitarianism is revealed at a glance. Getting caught up in endless, trivial quarrels every day is also because she has no money; the child is her last chance to turn around. On the surface, it is said that he does not want to delay the excellent piano in China, but in fact, it is for himself.

Xiao Yu's father, Zhang Liangzhong, is a rich man. He is wayward if he has money. He has no pressure to marry a young wife who is 20 years younger and have another child. As for the feelings that hurt his ex-wife and son Xiao Yu, he has no time to quarrel, can't control so much, and doesn't want to make his family jump. Sending Xiao Yu abroad is only the most effortless choice, out of sight and out of mind. With Zhang Liangzhong's financial resources, he could have straightened up and said, "everything that can be solved with money is a small matter."

only the Duoduo family's consideration of going abroad is entirely based on the well-being of their children. Parents are conscientious middle-class people who work hard and live hard. They are all well educated and don't want their children to get hurt. So Duoduo got more love than Xiao Yu and Qin Qin. Xiao Yu has always had to rely on mischief to attract his father's attention. Qin Qin is blindly studied, only with the most variety, raising puppies and changing grades, writing novels, listening to concerts, and daring to run away from home. In the final analysis, there is nothing to be afraid of.

the runaway of children is a game. Whether parents are willing to find their children depends on how much they love, and whether children are willing to go home depends on whether they have money or not. It is not that children have no love for their parents, but the way children love their parents is to accept their parents' money.

being able to love someone enough to ask him for money is also a rigorous test.

Zhang ailing described the scene when she asked her father for money when she was a child: "I stood in front of the cigarette shop for a long time, but I couldn't get an answer." Later, Zhang ailing also ran away from home and went to her mother. She wrote, "it was kind and interesting to ask my mother for money at first." But then, in her predicament for three days and two days, he reached out and asked her for the money, suffering for her temper and ingratitude, and the trivial embarrassment ruined my love little by little. "

Qin Qin never dared to run away from home. She knew that her family could not afford to stir up the relations of the Public Security Bureau and look for Weibo tens of millions of Vs as the Duoduo family did. She is the lifeblood of the old Jin family, and her parents may be killed if she gets lost for an hour. Once her father gave her a gift to guess what it was. She could only think of pencil cases and teddy bears when she wanted to break the sky. When she learned that it was an iPhone, her first reaction was where her father got so much money. Every time our parents quarreled about studying abroad, she reconciled it in the middle. We all sighed at this little girl's filial piety, sensibility, and thoughtfulness. Can think about it but sad, because poor, she can only be such an excellent girl, there is no other choice.