Are you having a bad time? Stop throwing pans at marriage!

you think your current life is OK, not because you are not married or childless, no, this is not the root cause, the root cause is that you are still young, you know you have time to make up for your mistakes, and you can look forward to the future. The sense of embarrassment in middle age does not come from marriage and family, but from the deep, deep knowledge that every day from now on, it will go downhill. # Don't throw the pot at marriage.

is the midlife crisis really because of marriage? Have I become an accessory to marriage without knowing it? Am I satisfied with my life now?
 

the answer is: no, not satisfied.

the essence of a midlife crisis is still a sense of being out of control. I thought I was the master of life, but later I found that it was not even a dragon. Parents and teachers told us that hard work can change everything, man will prevail over nature, and now we understand that hard work can't change anything, but nothing can be changed without effort. What are we going to do? Since I failed to commit suicide before the age of 30, I had no choice but to go ahead and pretend to be optimistic.

I am certainly not an accessory to my marriage, largely because I have met a good mother-in-law and husband who respects most of my choices and side with me when I need help.

my dissatisfaction with my present life is mainly my dissatisfaction with myself. I think I can be more diligent and more serious.

 what struck me today was the post "what are the middle-aged ladies thinking?". The high-ticket answer looked miserable, endured physical pain, and the soul was also suffering from daily chores. Some comments suggested that she should take more exercise and maintenance every day. She replied: I run for 3km21 minutes, and many young people don't necessarily have this speed. A comment asked, is it a single-parent family? She replied: her husband is not dead, not cheating, just cold. Did you see that? Everything becomes lackluster and ambiguous, no matter how much calcium tablets can not hold back the loss of calcium, soaking in the beauty salon every day can not stop the sagging cheeks, getting along with her husband becomes impatient, although inseparable from each other, but do not want to see each other. This is the state of life of middle-aged people, not black and white, not crisp.

as for me, I may not have reached that age. I do not have so much trouble with the high-vote answer. At present, I am in good health, and my parents and parents are still in good health. My son is still in kindergarten and has no pressure to go to school. My husband likes to talk to me. I'm not bald. I have six abdominal muscles. But in a few years, who knows? Now I already feel that my physical strength is not as good as it used to be, and my sleep is getting worse and worse. A few years ago, I took the initiative to go to the hospital when I was not feeling well. Now I don't care at all. I can only do a lot of tests. I can only strengthen my exercise, but what's the use? Fast walk 7 kilometers tired to fall apart, lying in bed should not sleep can not sleep, who to reason with? Unit girl 93, a full 10 years younger than me, last year with me to do card fitness, elliptical machine speed is not as fast as me, time is not as long as me, so what? Her belly is much tighter than mine!

I watched the rising mileage on the treadmill, which can't go back, just like my age. My heart is still that 19-year-old girl, loving the writer I loved at that time and dreaming the dream at that time, so what? There are a large number of real 19-year-old girls who can pinch out water inside and outside. Who cares about the heart of a middle-aged aunt? Yes, this is the crux of the midlife crisis. You are still a teenager at heart, but everyone around you treats you like an adult.

when I was just 30 years old, I was especially afraid of people saying that I was old and determined to dress up with young teeth, bangs, canvas shoes, soft sweaters, short skirts, how to pretend to be young, and some clothes that I couldn't wear at the age of 18. I wore it at the age of 30, and now it's ridiculous to think about it. These years simply give up resistance, OL commuter wind hard hold live, ankle pain to death does not take off high heels, fantasy white shirt revealed looming lace underwear, but do not realize that what others noticed is only the meat marks strangled by underwear, wearing silk stockings around the handsome guy will brain repair "the young woman is also a good person to set up", but the handsome guy is looking at the 22-year-old girl next door.

Aging is a necessary process for everyone, regardless of gender, beauty, and ugliness. Even in Lin Qingxia, there is still a twilight day. Lin Qingxia used wisdom, open-mindedness, and money to hold her face. she did not strive for the title of "frozen age goddess" as some actresses did. She was treated for beauty more than 80 times a year, and her face was stiff to compete with girls in her early twenties. Tut-tut, this picture is so sad. Maybe I should learn from Lin Qingxia, droop, and wrinkle. At least I have a leisurely temperament.

and so on, do I have one?

No.

Don't get married = be happy all your life, don't have children = never grow old.

I don't know which genius came up with the above formula and spread it. All I know is, this is bullshit.

A fool who doesn't turn his head, can you tell me whether TA can get married or not? if he is single, he will become refined.

there are many unmarried and infertile women of the same age around me. Some of them are in good shape, and some are more bloated than their mothers who have just given birth to their second child. Why? Because, first, by birth, second by sports, and third by spending money. Does giving birth affect a woman's body? Yes, and it has a lot of influence. But it is preventable and changeable. Lazy admits that don't use ignorant words like "you can't go back after having a baby."

Please don't say "no marriage and no child to ensure peace" in front of us married and fertile women. Yes, we are very vulnerable, we have a glass heart, we are very tired to cope with life every day, and we don't have time to compete with the young people who have enough to eat and the whole family is not hungry. Don't try to put a trap on us when you see some marital tragedy. our misfortune is not all caused by marriage, just like your misfortune, it will not be reduced because you are single, thank you.

I think the word "marital tragedy" actually exists. It is open to the question, what is a marital tragedy? In feudal society, a matchmaker could marry a beautiful Qin Xiaolian to a rich tuberculosis ghost with an open mouth, which is the tragedy of marriage. Now that they are all free to fall in love, why are girls looking for boyfriends in the garbage? Well, I didn't find that my husband was a scumbag man before marriage, so the girl didn't know that the Civil Affairs Bureau could handle a divorce. Well, I do exaggerate the subjective initiative of women, but shouldn't it be a conditioned reflex when it comes to scum men pulling their legs and leaving?

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it's good not to get married, congratulations on having a lot of freedom; it's good to get married, and congratulations on having one more person to accompany you; it's good to have children, and your life continues; dink is good, and you live for yourself; divorce is good, and you are brave to say no to mistakes; it's good to grow old together, and you know how to be considerate and tolerant. Being single is nothing superior, and getting married is nothing to show off. It's nothing to marry yourself off, but to keep your life from getting out of control is the real skill.

this is the mentality of married and childbearing women. How big is it to get married or not? Does the unmarried party need to take it to a higher level? Well, it's a bit of a lie to say so much about "good". My real idea is that it's none of my business, an attitude of disdain but respect because the older you get, the more you understand everyone's difficulties.