Chinese derailment

as a kind of intimate relationship, marital relationship has multiple attributes: emotional union, social contract, ethical order. The knowledge of Chinese couples is really great.

(1)

A very close colleague realized that in the third year, he told me one day at dinner that I wanted to tell you something.

she has a dignified manner. I said yes, sit up straight.

she's talking about her father having an affair. Since she was very young, her father had an affair with a single woman with children. This is a well-known thing on their side. Her father once moved to that woman's house. Her mother made a scene, several of their sisters protested, and her father moved back. But later, perhaps because all their sisters had grown up and got married except her, her father was no longer patient and moved over to live with that woman openly.

everyone accepted it in silence. Except for her mother. Her mother seems to be the only one who is still hurt by this old story. More and more nagging and trivial, complaining that there is no one to help her, living alone in a home where her husband and daughter have left home, like a shrinking shadow.

I said, does your mother want you to stand up for her?

my colleague nodded and said yes. But none of our three sisters. Although I blame my father in my heart, but. You can't deny him because of this. And to tell you the truth, from the bottom of my heart, although I sympathize with my mother, I also-- you know-- think she is so unworthy. She has never been out to work, has been confused all her life, and is not even a shrewd housewife. In comparison, my father is probably much better. Speaking of which, my mother was pursued by my father at that time.

my colleague caresses the teacup in a faint tone. She has always been a very weak and gentle girl, in fact, I can more or less imagine her mother's character.

at that time, I couldn't help saying, then why don't you stand up for your mother?

my colleagues obviously didn't expect me to say this. Ah, he looked at me in surprise and said, "how do I start?"

I said that if my own husband had an affair, I wouldn't mess with him. I'll get him out of here. But if my father bullied my mother like this, I would certainly stand up for my mother. Quarrel with my father, fight the other woman, spill the blood of the dog, go to her unit, how can I vent my anger for her?

colleagues say, but what's the use of this? My dad still won't be separated from that woman.

I said, it may be useless, but sometimes people just need to vent their anger. If you think about it, your husband has been having an affair for decades. I'm sure many people secretly despise your mother. She may not be able to raise her head all the time. She didn't have the courage to mess with her husband and was poked in the spine for decades, but if she has a powerful daughter, at least her daughter is protecting her, which is more or less a comfort. The world is enough to be on your father's side. Now that he has got the love he wants, he will have to pay some price. It's cruel to your mother in this situation.

my colleague was silent for a moment and said, maybe. I never thought I could do this. Maybe that's why my mom sighed. She always said that none of us helped her. She may feel lonely in this family. Sometimes I wonder if my mother would wish she had a son. She and my dad were actually hoping to have a son.

I want it. If it were not for the desire to have a son, few families would have three daughters in succession.

my colleague said, I advised her to divorce, but she didn't talk. My father didn't mention divorce either, but he always lived in another woman's house. Now every time I go home, my father will pick me up by car, and when we have dinner together, he will go back to that woman. I think the two of them are so deformed. I always think my family is deformed.

her voice was a little choked up, but she didn't cry. This long affair must have worn away everyone's intense emotion in these decades, leaving only endless patience with life.

I think her mother didn't mention divorce, probably because she knew very well that she wouldn't be better off if she got divorced. And her father is nothing more than the so-called sense of responsibility of an old-fashioned man. It is one thing to fly the red flag outside, but the wife of the chaff at home can not be abandoned. It's a kind of morality that makes people angry and funny.

(2)

parents have never had an affair. There must be such families. But the family has never been threatened with infidelity, I do not know whether there is such a family.

I was in primary school when I first came into contact with the affair. My partner Yuanyuan's family made a fortune because she saw the business opportunity and planted many mu of turmeric in time, and she was very proud for a time. Maybe it's really strange when there's a lot of money. I don't know which day, there are some rumors coming out in the town. I am not sensitive to gossip, and by the time I feel some strange signs, it will probably be all over the city. When I heard a few broken words, it was probably that Yuanyuan's father was very close to a woman, and there was something bad about it. Yuanyuan's family, who has always been very harmonious, began to hear the occasional sound of fighting in the middle of the night, mixed with crying and screaming. They went out as usual during the day, and everyone talked to them as usual. Just turn your back, there is always some strange eyes. When they had not gone far, they began to whisper.

what impresses me most is the twisted look of adults talking about it, mixed with disdain, curiosity and excitement. It's not pretty at all. No matter how young a child is, he can know by intuition that this is a very bad thing.

after making trouble for more than a month, the incident gradually died down. Soon Yuanyuan and her family moved out of town to the city. It is said that he bought a house in the city after making a fortune in turmeric. But when the neighbors talk about it, they always look like they have something else to say. But no matter what others say, the scandal gradually fades away, and Yuanyuan's parents are still an ordinary couple in the world. The world is big.Most infidelities end up like this.

when I was in college, my second uncle seemed to have an affair, or there were signs that she was about to have an affair. But in the end, my second aunt sharpened my uncle with a kitchen knife, which scared him so much that she knelt down and swore a curse. This is a matter that everyone knows.

my second aunt is a powerful woman. I have been contracting all kinds of small real estate projects with my uncle for so many years. This kind of money is not easy to earn. People who do not bear hardships and are not tough enough can only be bullied. It is said that when my second aunt was pregnant with her cousin for seven months, she went to the construction site to supervise the work herself with a big belly. She is ruthless, she has no mercy in deducting wages, and she wants to pick up the bill like a demon. My uncle's business cannot be separated from her at all. Although he is old now, there is still a strong residual power of plagiarism.

that incident ended in a complete victory for the second aunt. But is it true that there is no trace in the water? Not exactly. My second uncle is the kind of person who brags when he drinks a little. He hates it very much. My aunt usually lets him blow it away, but occasionally he speaks too badly. My aunt coughs twice on the side, although he doesn't seem to hear it on the surface, but then he will rein in. When my cousin and cousin were away from home, my second aunt basically muddled through. My second uncle ate delicious food, saying that the food everywhere was not as good as that at home, but I just liked this light noodle. I really couldn't get used to eating out! Don't tell me, I can't tell if what he said is true or not, it's probably true.

besides, my second aunt. She used to be very economical, but I don't know when she became a regular customer of the beauty salon and spared no effort to spend money on her face. It is also generous to buy clothes. On several occasions, when I forgot what the reason was, my second aunt said to me, "your uncle, that's it." You think I still care about him? I think he's a fart. I only care about Zhao Xi and his brother and sister. I will be satisfied if the two of them are to be successful.

but I think that's not necessarily the case. I think once the second uncle drank too much wine during the dinner is a little uncomfortable, the second aunt with disdainful concern, is by no means faking.

I once asked my mother and uncle if he was really having an affair. My mother didn't seem to know very well, but she said, anyway, your second uncle can't turn the sky. Your aunt has all the money in her hand.

the knowledge of Chinese couples is really great.

(3)

there are some stories of female infidelity, but the outcome is different.

Aunt Hong was born beautifully. I saw her dance at a party in town when I was very young. Barefoot, wearing a tight black sweater and a round skirt. The dance is "the Girl of Alishan". At the end, after a whirl of wind and rain, she gracefully spread out her big round skirt like a lotus leaf, revealing a slender ankle and straight toes. Bai Shengsheng. The upper body is leaning back, the slender waist is as thrilling as to be broken, and the arms are stretched out like a new branch of a spring tree, and a small hat is held on the higher branch.

in the words of Gulong, every inch is a woman.

she lived up to her beauty and married to a talented and good-looking doctor in the city. Aunt Hong works herself, but she probably doesn't earn much. The doctor is not only a noble professional, but also a talented person, and the previous generation of his family is also from our town.

that time it was a happy event in my aunt's house, and Aunt Hong came to give me a present. After a few pleasantries in the hall, I went into the bedroom with my mother and aunt. I was playing outside with her daughter Cheng Cheng. Occasionally, my aunt came out to pour water. I saw them whispering, their expressions were all very serious. The aunt stood with her hand on Aunt Hong's shoulder, as if comforting and encouraging. Aunt Hong sat on the edge of the bed with the arrogant look of a young and beautiful woman on her face, but she listened and did not speak.

after Aunt Hong left, the aunts talked about her and said she was not good enough.

"with such a good husband, he is still out there." Alas. "

"she has been lucky all the time, so she doesn't know how many pounds she is. If you don't listen to advice now, you'll have to suffer in the future. "

"but the state is really good." This is what my mother said, "have you noticed that for more than two hours, she sat upright, chest out and belly retracted, and she was very well-mannered. It won't be easy. "

later I learned that Aunt Hong was having an affair and was divorcing her husband. Their daughter Cheng Cheng was about five or six years old at that time.

over the next few years, I heard from Aunt Hong on and off. It is said that although she is having an affair, her husband still clings to her and does not want a divorce. When my aunt said this, she looked both disdainful and envious, saying that Aunt Hong was really lucky. But Aunt Hong is determined to leave. In her words, her husband is "not interesting". How much is the fun worth? That's what my aunt said as people who had been there.

later I heard that the man Aunt Hong was outside refused to marry her. Aunt Hong gradually doesn't want a divorce so much. But by this time, her husband no longer wanted her.

A few years later, I saw Aunt Hong again. She was divorced. Cheng Cheng spent the afternoon in our house that day. The teenage girl was still good-looking, but somehow she spoke arrogantly and domineering, which was not the lovely look of Yuxue at first. When Aunt Hong came to pick her up, she lost her temper and called Aunt Hong by her name and reprimanded her loudly. It is difficult for outsiders to interrupt, and the scene is really awkward.

Our gorgeous plus size gothic wedding dresses are definitely eye-catching. Pefect for formal affairs or an informal ceremonies.

but Aunt Hong lowered her eyebrows and smiled with a smile, only occasionally said feebly: "all right, all right." And explained to us: "send her to dance class, now the child is under too much pressure."

I think of Aunt Hong's graceful dancing when she was young. I heard that she had no dance foundation, but only learned for a few days because of her natural softness. She was so beautiful at that time. Now, maybe it still has its charm. She has always been an image-conscious woman and still wears full makeup.But the fine eyebrows of the painting showed a bit of bitterness on the thin face rubbed with white powder. The haggard and vicissitudes of life between the eyebrows are obvious.

she is now a single mother with a daughter. And the daughter is not sensible. Is it born so arrogant and domineering, or do you know in your heart that your mother screwed up your family and secretly hated her? can make nothing of it. My cousin Bing Bing and Cheng Cheng went to the same school and asked her about Cheng Cheng. Bing Bing said that Cheng Cheng was not good at learning and was overbearing, fooling around with senior boys and gangsters at school.

she has reason to learn bad. After growing up, it can be said that because her mother had an affair and the family broke up, resulting in no sound parental love, the shadow of the original family caused her congenital defects, which will accompany her for the rest of her life. She can justifiably be a bad girl-this is now very popular, the so-called original family theory.

but in my opinion, Aunt Hong may not be a good wife, but she is not a bad mother. At least I think so. Divorced and insisted on taking her daughter. She must know that it's hard to remarry a child at her age. I also tried my best to give my daughter a good education and sent her to an interest class. I wonder if Cheng Cheng can think so one day.

at about the same time, Aunt Hong's doctor's ex-husband remarried. I hear the new wife is very young. Our family even gave gifts. Mother joked that she didn't know when Aunt Hong would remarry. This family really earns enough money for our gift.

Dad said, is she still getting married again? Her life is over.

I don't know if Aunt Hong's life is over. If so, it can only be said that the life of a woman is much easier than that of a man. Or maybe there is no capital to make such a mistake.

the above are some of the Chinese derailments I know of.