In the age of maiden faces, why don't Chinese women "dare" to grow old?

first of all, let me answer the question raised by the title. The crux of the problem that Chinese women do not "dare" to age easily is that the values based on patriarchal aesthetics in Asian culture advocate the face of a young girl, or, more bluntly, a "virgin face". There is no change in the aesthetics of women from 18-year-old boys to 88-year-old men, but they also like 18-year-old girls.

therefore, throughout their lives, Chinese women have to fight unremittingly against the years, strive for their "frozen age" and maintain their "girlish faces" for a few more years. Because only in this way is it possible to be liked by men, and even prove that their life is happy. For example, in the news report of Wu Wanfang, the most beautiful Hong Kong sister, the media will write that "some netizens think that Wu Wanfang is not old in appearance and that apart from being blessed by nature, the most important thing is to marry well, love her husband Hu Jiahua as before, have a son and a daughter, and live a happy life." Once the older actresses were photographed in plain clothes, some media said that they grew old because they were unhappy, such as Qiu Shuzhen and Wang Zuxian. As a result, people of natural beauty at that time had to wait on their faces with hyaluronic acid at any time in an attempt to keep it in the state of a girl, which is ridiculous and lamentable to outsiders.

the term "virgin face", which seems to me to be a retrogression in history and full of discrimination against women, was born recently. and it is said that major plastic surgery agencies have recommended virgin faces as upgrading standards for Internet celebrities to girls who are interested in cosmetic surgery. The so-called "virgin face" refers to a group of female stars represented by Lin Yun, whose innocent appearance, pure temperament and naive expression and behavior make men involuntarily develop a desire for protection.

Why are Chinese men so popular with virgin faces for more than a thousand years? Columnist Hou Hongbin makes a particularly thorough analysis, because

[pure abstinence and flat chest "virgin face, which is the heroine's standard, because it can show that women are docile, clever, have no desire, and are suitable for IKEA. Therefore, it is also easy to control, can fall in love well, so sexy and hot, must be capable, aggressive, insatiable, constantly asking for sex and money, is evil. This is standard for female villains or girls who worship money. "Why are all the leading actresses in Chinese movies now "virgin faces"? "

in China, it is impossible for a gorgeous and dangerous mature woman like Angelina Jolie to play female No.1. Sexy, independent, independent-minded 30 + women are often face-profiling snake and scorpion beauties. Their only use is to add blockage to the silly girl face hostess, using all kinds of tricks to alienate the feelings between the male and female masters, and it is obvious that the male master who suffers from frigidity can only be cured by the female master of the little white rabbit, and is immune to the sexy meat bullet-like mature women. Ah, yes, I'm talking about the plot of the Mermaid. The hero would rather soak up a fish than appreciate Zhang Yuqi.

the role setting of the girl face girl one and the mature woman two in the Mermaid seems to be a huge metaphor, which implies that Chinese society still does not know how to appreciate mature women. In movies and TV dramas, the images of women over the age of 32 are absent for a long time. Gao Yuanyuan in the hit TV series "Let's get married" and Andy in "Ode to Joy" cannot be more than 32 years old, and no matter how good they were before, the focus of their lives has shifted from their careers to "how to marry themselves." TV dramas often end with their successful marriage and childbirth as a happy ending.

it seems that from then on their lives can only revolve around their families, and when they appear again, they have become garrulous mothers or mothers-in-law. For example, today's mom professionals Zhang Kaili and Pan Hong, with their acting skills, can contribute to the performances of the heroines in "the good wife" or "my dangerous wife", but they do not have such a chance. Because no matter on the big screen or the small screen, we rarely see stories about middle-aged women as the protagonists. Don't talk to me about "good wife" and "little husband". The kind of middle-aged silly Bai Tian who sells dog meat is not the real-life of 30 + women.

Pan Hong is a seriously wasted actress. If she were in Hollywood, she would be Meryl Streep. It's a pity. Lu Wenting, a middle-aged female doctor she played in Middle Age, caused great social repercussions in the 1980s, but it was a flash in the pan.

when their teenage faces are no longer, they begin to play all kinds of mothers and mothers-in-law early, and their roles are highly repetitive and routine, with no breakthrough and no room to play. From wife to mother-in-law, for at least 20 years, it is a blank. No one cares about how a fruit changes from green to ripe. What people like is to watch a flower blossom, and when she blossoms and bears fruit, they assume that her life is over. It's as if a woman is born to reproduce. Unexpectedly, the mature day is the beginning of the Chinese color chapter in a woman's life.

in China, the hostesses of "the good wife", "desperate Housewife" and "my dangerous wife" have no choice but to play the mother generation.

this is a concrete manifestation of the huge difference in values between the East and the West. Among the first-tier actresses in Hollywood, there are few girl-faced contestants, but familiar female faces. Many European and American actresses who have been on the US film website "TC Candler" and "the 100 most beautiful female stars" are not good-looking in terms of domestic aesthetics. For example, Julia Roberts, Sarah Jessica Parker, Sandra Bullock, Kate Blanchett and so on never seem to have experienced the stage of "maiden face", and their great popularity has emerged as the image of mature women.

Today, they may not be as good-looking as they were in their early 20s, but the years have brought them not only wrinkles on their faces but also the calm, confident and tenacious charisma of mature women, who are no longer controlled and no longer follow others and do not have to wait for the protection of men timidly. Their three values are stable. Sure, they will not let others rub round and pinch flat, they do not need to get married to be able to live a good life alone. Naive men without self-confidence can not appreciate them, or even hate and fear them, but mature men prefer this kind of evenly matched love. Refer to the president and his wife in House of Cards.

if you look carefully, you will find that most of the female characters in European and American mainstream movies and TV dramas are mature women, which is why those who starred in chicken movies (it comes directly from "chicken literature"). Refers to the kind of youth and fashion literature written specifically for young women. In America, Chicken (chick) itself is slang for "Niu'er", so it is the reason why starring actresses are in a hurry to change before the age of 30. Hollywood does not give "Girl's face" many opportunities. Apart from acting in love brain youth films and various vase roles of daughters and sisters, the girl's faces have no opportunity to show their talents, and the competition is quite fierce. after all, good-looking girls emerge one after another, and chicken movies don't need much acting.

once you can't make a successful transition from a teenage face to a familiar face, it means a thorough flop, for European and American actresses such as Winona Reed, such as Kristen Dunst, such as Lindsay Lohan, and even Britney Spears. The former girl face representatives Natalie Portman and Reese Witherspoon also relied on dramas like "Black Swan" and "forge ahead" to complete their difficult transformation, proving that they are no longer a face-acting girl vase.

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Winona Rhett, known as the "everlasting Girl of Hollywood", said she wanted to make a transition when she was in her twenties. "I want to be allowed to grow old," she said. " She wants to try more rich female characters than just being noticed for her beautiful face. She wants people to pay attention to what lies beneath her beautiful face, something that proves who she is. "many women are afraid of getting old. Or society is trying to make you feel like getting older is a bad thing. I'm just the opposite. I enjoy the process of getting old. "

different age groups have different age beauty, green and astringent beauty, mature beauty, green and astringent beauty, no need to accelerate their maturity, and there is no need to pretend to be tender when they are mature, while Asian culture has to say that it is a pity for Asian culture to be paranoid about the single aesthetic of a girl's face. Different stages of life have different stages of pursuit, and there is a long period outside the main breeding season, which is also meaningful and is the most essential reason to distinguish people from animals. The focus of animal life is on courtship and reproduction, while humans are not, so getting old doesn't mean life is in the garbage.

but the Chinese, both men, and women regard the aging of women as a scourge. Baoyu in A Dream of Red Mansions also loves "maiden face". His famous saying: "the girl is not married, she is a priceless jewel; when she gets married, she somehow becomes a lot of bad things. Although it is a bead, it has no brilliance, it is a dead pearl; no matter how old it is, it becomes not a bead, but a fish eye." It can be said that it is the voice of many people, this idea that after a woman gets married, not only her appearance is getting older, but even her personality has become vulgar, and she is no longer as innocent and romantic as she was when she was young. So does "maiden face" still imply innocence and kindness? I seem to understand something.

but from the Qing Dynasty to modern times, women have stepped into society from the family, and are no longer independent individuals attached to "father, husband, son", but are still suffering from the evaluation from priceless pearls to dead fish eyes. It lags far behind the times. In addition to being influenced by the concept of materialized women, aesthetics may also be a reflection of the soundness of personality. Most Chinese men cannot accept a relatively independent intimate relationship between men and women, and they need to be obedient and bound. No matter how old they are or how old they are in their careers, they are full of giant babies on the inside.

under the influence of such social psychology, you can understand why veteran movie queen characters like Liu Xiaoqing still play the role of "girl" in their sixties, competing with actresses of the post-80s and even post-90s to play the role of a girl's face. Because once she is "old", it is almost impossible for her to play female number one, except for "girl", that is, "mother-in-law". This is the grimmest reality that Chinese actresses have to face. For example, Yang Yuting, the actress who plays Yue Guifei, the birth mother of the prince in Nirvana in Fire, was born in 1978 and is two years younger than Erhao, who plays the prince.

I can't say whether there is something wrong with the marriage between Yang Mi and Liu Kaiwei, but the way she cuts off her relationship with her husband and daughter is nothing more than to protect her "girl face" sign. once she is keen to show her love on Weibo, performing with her husband all day long, it will undoubtedly make many audiences classify her as a "mature woman." the girl face girl who appeared in a romantic drama is a very big hindrance to her. If she has no intention of transformation, then her marriage will always be in such a cold state in the outside world.

once upon a time we were also very familiar with and accepted "mature female faces". In the four days, we loved growing up with TVB, Chen Huishan, Cai Shaofen, Xuan Xuan and Guo Keying are all mature female faces. In modern dramas, they all play professional women in their thirties in the new era. Work and self-realization are the focus of their lives. Getting married and having children all depends on the mood. If there is no fate and no feeling, then no way, There is no rush to "hand in the paper". Their attitudes towards their careers and feelings are neither humble nor arrogant, and they always seem to be the masters of their destiny.

when I was young, I envied everything in Hong Kong films almost obsessively. It was only now that I realized that what I envied most was not the modern city with row upon row of high-rise buildings, nor the fashionable life of fragrant cars, BMWs, and light fur, let alone the happy hours, in bars and cafes. What I envied most was them. The way of life of modern women is that they tell me that marriage and family are not everything in a woman's life, and that time is not the most feared enemy of a woman. Once you have control of your destiny, you will not be afraid to grow old, because you have the strength to wait for someone who can appreciate you to show up, and it doesn't matter if you don't have that person, at least you can appreciate yourself and give yourself enough sense of security.

on the contrary, such female images have gradually disappeared on the Chinese screen after the new century. Women over 30 are either demonized into violent strong women or turned into leftover women who hate marriage by Facebook. The only function of their existence is to advise the female viewers in front of the TV to get married while they still have a maiden face, otherwise, they will be as perverted as she is! From a genetic point of view, the characteristics of young girls' faces symbolize their exuberant vitality, in other words, strong fertility, there are great opportunities to feed the next generation, and China is a country that attaches great importance to carrying on the family line. Well, it fully shows that our aesthetics is still in the primary stage of socialism, everything revolves around reproduction, it is breeding love!

the big Boss of my previous two jobs were women, and I have also come into contact with many 35 + outstanding women in the workplace. They are neither manic strong women nor so-called "good wives" who are tolerant of magnanimity to return good for evil. They have exquisite appearance commensurate with their age, do not dress up as young girls, and do not feel that they will be "aged women" half-buried in the dirt after they get married. They came out of the third-and fourth-tier small cities with no family background and primitive wealth. They were able to get to where they are today, not by a maiden face, but by their efforts and determination to give priority to self-realization. Age is not their deduction, nor are wrinkles their enemy, because their value is not proved by their faces. Of course, they also love beauty, but they will not be forced to achieve the effect of reversing time and space, they can calmly accept the traces of time, because their hearts are confident and self-sufficient.

to tell you the truth, if such characters can be properly recreated in Chinese movies and TV dramas, the face obsession of both men and women will probably improve. It is not a terrible thing for women to change their beauty in the twilight of life. On the contrary, it is more worrying for women than getting old if they can't get rid of the thinking of sex people at a great age.