You don't need a reason to get married or not.

my friend Lao Huan, who has had a lot of trouble with his girlfriend recently, has come to have dinner with me every three days. The two had been fine, but they had been in a calm relationship for four years, but they suddenly hit the rocks some time ago. The cause was that his girlfriend casually asked when Lao Huan was going to get married, and Lao Huan hesitated and could not say why, so he lit a landmine. Are you short of money? I asked him. No shortage. Lao Huan said. He has a car and a house, and his monthly salary is three times that of mine, and he doesn't see any bad habit of wasting money. Oh, I said, then pay for the meal later. Aren't you talking about me and my girlfriend?! The old man became angry. I'm talking. I motioned to him to sit down. Lao Huan looked at me and sat back down. Does your family disagree? I asked again. Lao Huan shook her head. Are you terminally ill? There is still. Something you can't talk about? I pretended to inadvertently look under the table. Lao Huan patted the table. I straightened up quickly. No. Lao Huan said. Then you. Have a problem with your girlfriend? I continued to ask. Lao Huan still shakes his head. She was nice to me, he said, smiling a little bit. Maybe I. I can't find anyone so kind to me. I looked at his face and didn't know what to say. Do you want to marry her? I tried to ask. Lao Huan thought for a moment and nodded his head twice. Then get married! I also clapped the table. 

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What's going on?! It's fun to show love in disguise, isn't it? Lao Huan looked at me again and shook his head. Shit, the conversation can't go on. I bowed my head to eat. Lao Huan said nothing. He ordered two bottles of beer and drank them silently. I'm not in the mood to drink, so put the cup aside. In the middle of eating, a family came into the restaurant, and a middle-aged couple with a little boy sat at the table next to us. I didn't pay attention to them at first, but later I found that the family spoke so loudly that there was no way not to listen. The woman has been complaining that the shop is so far away, that the waiters are as slow and stupid as wood, that they can simply eat, and that they have to waste time and money. I thought it was the weekend. Her husband smiled. We spent the weekend. What's your hurry? Go home and clean up! It's easy for you to scold him loudly. You don't do anything at home. Don't I have to worry about it? I thought I was working for you, too. The man explained, rubbing the little boy's head, right, son? What did you do? The woman asked I asked you to take the sheet yesterday. Did you accept it? In the end, I took it! The man blushed a little and said, I'm not busy. All right! The woman frowned, interrupted him impatiently, and hurriedly ordered. They asked the waiter to order. I was so curious that I pricked up my ears and looked at Lao Huan. I found that he stopped drinking and was also listening.

 Ordering is another intense process. The woman ordered two green vegetables, and her son quarreled that he would not eat green vegetables. She scolded her, saying that green vegetables are good for your health, but you are not good at all. The man couldn't get a word in, so he looked at the menu and ordered a boiled meat slice. No boiled meat slices! The woman grabbed the menu and ordered fried beef. No, I want to eat. The man tried to say. Your son can't eat spicy food. The woman blocked the man back with a word. I know. I'd like to order both dishes. The man said again. What if I can't finish it? The woman raised her voice and packed it back for leftovers? Do you know how many carcinogens there are in leftovers? Besides, when can't you eat this dish? Why don't you think about the child first? The man bowed his head and said nothing. That. The boiled meat slices are not ordered, are they? The waiter asked timidly. No, no! The woman makes a summary, that's all! The waiter left. The man wanted to ease the atmosphere, so he teased the child with chopsticks, and the woman shouted again: what should you do if you poke him in the eye? What's the matter with you? The man had to put down his chopsticks. 

At this point, I no longer have the patience to listen and turn my head to continue to eat. Lao Huan suddenly sneered. I looked up at him. Do you know why I don't want to get married? Lao Huan asked me and pointed to the family next to me. You don't want kids? I asked. Lao Huan shook her head. It has nothing to do with the baby. 'i'm just worried that we will become like them in the future, 'Mr. Huan said. Worry about life, worry about family, feelings become more and more insipid, more and more trivial. Lao Huan added that when you go out to see a movie, you have to think about whether you should go home early to clean up the house, have a holiday date, go to all the places you have been to, and can't find a topic. In the end, you don't even feel like sitting together and having a good weekend. It has nothing to do with getting married, is it? I asked. Lao Huan didn't say anything, and it took a while to say, do you know? When I was in high school, my parents almost got divorced. I looked at him with my eyes wide open. They quarreled more than a dozen times a year, each time getting more and more ferocious. The old man sighed happily. At that time, I thought, if marriage is going to be like this in the end, why do people want to get married? For that certificate? Or to follow the path that others have taken? He shook his head. I remember my mother yelling at my father that if it hadn't been for me, she would have signed the divorce papers. 

I listened, speechless. Of course, it didn't work out in the end, but it gave me the impression that they did it only because they didn't want to destroy the family. Lao Huan said I don't know how much of the relationship between them can be left. He sighed again. I know it may not be right for me to think so. I also know that running away like this will do a lot of harm to my girlfriend. It's not that I don't want to get married. I'm just afraid that marriage will change everything we have now. Do you understand? Lao Huan asked again. I don't understand! If you are worried that marriage will dull your relationship, try not to let it go; if you worry about life becoming trivial-it has nothing to do with whether you get married or not. There is a solution to all problems. Is it because you are afraid of breaking the bowl that you will not eat anymore? But these words just thought about it in my heart but did not say it. What about your girlfriend? I asked Lao Huan and let him wait. 

Waiting for you to take care of this? Lao Huan was silent for a long time. I have no idea. He said. The meal was so depressing that nothing was discussed in the end. After eating, Lao Huan and I went back to our respective homes. I haven't been in touch for a while since. I want to find a persuasive reason to persuade Lao Huan not to think too much, but I don't know how to open my mouth. Later, more than half a month later, one day I was at home watching electricity. Shadow, shit, and fart comedy was watching happily, suddenly QQ rang. Click to take a look, it is a girl I used to know, named Xiaoyi. I have happy news to tell you! Xiaoyi said. At your age, apart from winning the lottery, you probably have no choice but to get married. Yeah? Get married?! I'm getting married! Xiaoyi said again. Sure enough! I tried desperately to calculate the surplus of this month in my head. 

I guess I can only pretend to be dead this time. Hello, the user of the QQ has passed away, please burn paper for him every November. I type silently. After thinking about it, I added: he likes the smell of braised meat. You fuck off! Xiaoyi ignored me. I didn't ask you to follow me. There is no betrothal gift! I am very happy, continue to hit the keyboard, see you at the beginning of the year, you also said that you do not have a boyfriend, do not worry, this is already getting married? Yeah. Xiaoyi said, we have known each other for two months and got married. On a blind date? I asked. Xiaoyi sent a look of disdain. Have you been destroyed too much by society? If you don't have a blind date, can't you get married after knowing each other for two months? I don't know how to refute her. True feelings. Xiaoyi typing is a real emotion. Something suddenly occurred to me. Why do you want to get married so much? I asked. Why? Xiaoyi hesitated for a moment, probably a little dizzy by my brainless question. It's good to talk to each other, and it's good to me, too. Xiaoyi typed, and the families of both sides agreed, so they tied the knot. What kind of answer is that?! There are a lot of things to think about when you get married, right? I also type, such as house, car, wedding money, preparation time, and so on. Xiaoyi sent a blank expression. 

What you said must be considered. 'but this is a condition for marriage, not a reason for marriage, 'she said. I was stunned for a moment. You just asked me why I want to get married. Xiaoyi went on to say, "I don't know why I want to get married. I can get married if I want to." Before, I also thought that flash marriage was unreliable, and two people should know more about their character, habits, and family situation, but if you think about it, these should be regarded as the necessary conditions for marriage, and it has nothing to do with whether you want to get married or not. Why not tie the knot when you meet a person you think is particularly suitable, and the other person loves you, and the conditions permit? Xiaoyi asked me.

 I still don't know how to answer that. Of course, there is also the kind of, two people are very suitable, want to get married, but found that there is a lot of resistance, Xiaoyi added, either the family is not allowed, or the wedding, the talk broke down, but these two people initially want to get married, is there nothing wrong with it? I was silent for a while and then typed again. Won't you worry about what will happen after marriage? such as? Xiao Yi asked. For example, you find that each other's parents are difficult to get along with, for example, you find that each other's character may not be so suitable, for example, you feel that the relationship has faded, and you are close to firewood, rice, oil and salt, and you can't find the feeling when you fall in love. I typed a lot of words in one breath. But that was after we got married. Xiaoyi said. 

Even if they are two couples who have been in love for many years and know their roots, they don't know what will happen when they get married, do they? Xiaoyi also said that life is so long, no one can tell. There are a lot of divorced people, but if you look back at the photos of them when they got married, which couple didn't laugh at Tian Chang Di Jiu (Eternal Dumpling)? If you worry about it every day, don't get married at all. Then again, if you don't get married, you can guarantee that your relationship won't change? Xiaoyi finally said. I felt like I figured something out and quickly typed on the screen: thank you, Xiaoyi. Huh? Xiaoyi didn't understand. Having said so much, please give me your blessing. 

She added. And don't you have a girlfriend? Why are you asking? She went on. Can't you ask if you don't have a girlfriend?! I had no intention of chatting with her on QQ. I picked up my phone and found Lao Huan's number. I'm going to text him. I want to tell him that I know how to help him escape his phobia of marriage. I want to say that marriage is innocent. if something goes wrong, it is the two people who get married. I want to say that marriage is just a form. as long as two people are willing to be together, whether they get married or not will affect their feelings. I want to say: everyone has feared for the future, but they still have to move on, eat, sleep or sleep, and don't think too much about things they can't see. 

But after typing only one word, I stopped. I slowly put down my phone and thought that when I was having dinner that day, Lao Huan talked about his girlfriend with a confused but happy face. He knows all these things. I think he'll come out. Since all those things have been taken into account, it shows that this relationship has been unable to give up. Everyone is repeatedly discussing whether we should get married, what we will abandon and lose when we get married, but when we think about it, those are the conditions for marriage, not the reasons for marriage. Maybe you don't need a reason to get married. It's just that we love each other, but we can no longer be separated, but one morning I woke up from sleep, saw your gentle face, and decided that we should keep going. We are still in love, day by day, year by year, but in a different form. Right?